Dear Parent, let your child fail!

While wishing for failure may go against our parental instincts, it’s healthy — and necessary. Failing helps our children learn important life lessons about how to adapt, work hard and persevere; they’ll develop coping mechanisms, and qualities such as responsibility and accountability. 
At times I want my child to fail!
It is only when he fails that he will have an opportunity to get back up.  It is only when he fails that he will learn to work hard.  It is only when he fails that he will learn what doesn’t work.  It is only when he fails that he will learn that sometimes people need help.  It is only when he fails that he will learn empathy for others struggling.   It is only when he fails that he will learn that life is not always fair.  
I want my child to fail – and you should want yours to also.  If your children are struggling, help them to learn to succeed.  Don’t make success easy for them, but teach them the skills they need to succeed.  If your children are not struggling at times in school, ask why not.  Create a curriculum that challenges them and makes them work harder. Learning from failure is one of the most important skills they will ever learn.
The secret to a kid’s future success is to raise them in an environment where they are encouraged to test the boundaries and engage themselves regardless of the results. 

If children cant handle failure, they lose the opportunity to experiment and learn from past experiences. 
Disappointment can benefit the child, as long as you teach them how to cope with failure and how to bounce back from it.
I want my child to fail.  It is how he will learn to succeed.

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3 Responses to Dear Parent, let your child fail!

  1. Natasha Baig says:

    Bang on Sonya.
    I agree that it’s totally important to let our child fail in order to learn, gonna keep this in mind. But there is always a small part of me wondering whether he will be able to cope with his failure which sometimes results in me helping him eventually.
    But I promise to keep this is mind for his own good. Thanx.

  2. Dr.Shairi Alva says:

    Totally follow this to the ‘T’ and believe that failure is essential for wholesome development of a child.What I found interesting is the idea of creating a curriculum that challenges the child..something I haven’t done lately.Looking forward to more write-up ‘ from you.

  3. Hrushita Shah says:

    Amazing insite Sonya … But surely difficult to implement.

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